Resources for Relationships

A list of the resources I share the most frequently…

Must Read Books:

Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections Emily Nagoski

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love Sue Johnson

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship Stan Tatkin

The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation Alan Fruzzetti

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Jessica Fern

Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together Dean Spade

Podcast Episodes:

Ping Pong versus Catch: Communication and Listening Basics

Mentalization (Understanding The Inner World of Yourself and Your Partner)

Understanding Emotional Triggers

Attachment Basics

Anxious Preoccupied Attachment

Dismissive Avoidant Attachment

Mistaken Assumptions

It’s Not Communication, It’s Connection

A Very Short Podcast on The Importance of Taking Breaks in Conflict

A Very Short Podcast on Managing Conflict

A Very Short Podcast on Managing Emotional Overwhelm

Articles on Attachment:

Avoidant Attachment

How to Communicate With Avoidantaly Attached Partners

Anxious Attachment

Disorganized Attachment

Building a Culture of Appreciation

Articles on Communication:

Softening Start-Up: How to Bring Something Hard Up

Contempt

How To Change Contempt

What Your Partner Needs When Upset: Helped, Heard, or Hugged

Listen Without Getting Defensive

Turn Toward Instead of Away

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