Couples Therapy in Berkeley, CA

I offer more than communication tips. I focus on how your past affects your present and your depth of connection.

But yeah, we will work on communication, too.

“Love isn’t a feeling...it is a practice.”
— Erich Fromm

I work with families, friends, and partners looking for a therapist who “gets it.” Queer, poly, kinky, and non-traditional folks welcome! I hold our therapeutic relationship with deep respect and care, making room for your story and your experiences without judgment. You are not too intense, too much, too sensitive, too “out there.” The whole of you is welcome with me. I take your experiences of marginalization, your upbringing, and your identities seriously and come from a social justice, anti-racist, trauma-informed lens informed by my clinical training at Pacific Center for Human Growth, the oldest LGBTQ+ center in the Bay Area. 

​I integrate attachment theory and am informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy, Psychobiological Approach to Couple's Therapy (PACT), Relational Life Therapy, and the Gottman Method. 

​My job is to collaborate with you, uncovering your personal toolkit and strategies to help you grow in and heal your relationships.

“Underneath all the distress, partners are asking each other: Can I count on you, depend on you? Are you there for me? Will you respond to me when I need, when I call? Do I matter to you? Am I valued and accepted by you? Do you need me, rely on me?”
— Sue Johnson


Relationship therapy can include things like:

  • Identifying your wants, needs, and fears are and how to communicate that and connect to your partner.

  • Learning about your and your partner's attachment style and attachment history and uncovering how that impacts you now.

  • Finding ways to identify and rework sticky patterns that increase conflict and frustration and decrease intimacy.

  • In identifying and moving out of the frustrating loops of conflict, helping you regulate your and your partner's nervous system.

  • Exploring your sexual connection and managing desire discrepancies. 

  • Discovering how to exist as a differentiated person while living interdependently with your partner(s), family, and community. 


I will be there with you to support you, guide you, and most importantly to me, hold your story as precious and listen with a non-judgmental, affirming ear as we build trust and safety in the therapy room and in your partnership.